Tips for a Loving Relationship

Focus On The Things You Can Control In Your Relationship

Your attitude, your behavior, your words, and your energy are all things you have control over. If you want something to change in any phase of a romantic relationship, focus on your own attitudes or actions – not your partner’s (I know this contradicts the book I featured above, but it really is a fascinating read!).

Vent In Healthy Ways

Learn healthy ways to express your disappointment, anger, or frustration. Be honest and authentic, and kind and loving in all stages of romance. Psychological research shows that the happiest couples are true to themselves.

Most Romantic Stage Of Love

Relive your feelings of lust and  attraction for your partner. Think about the traits you were once attracted to, and work to revive those old feelings. Don’t forget who you fell in love with. If you’re struggling with your relationship, read When He Says He Doesn’t Love You Anymore.

Own both your positive and negative feelings

Your partner can’t “make” you feel anything.

Stage of love

How Love Changes Over Time – The 3 Stages of Love

If you feel unfulfilled in your life or overwhelmed by relationship problems, look at your dreams and goals. Are you pursuing the life you were meant to live? Are you following your heart? Develop your personality, mind, and spirit. Figure out what will make you happy in this phase of romance, and start creating the life you were meant to live.

Love isn’t just a vehicle that brings happiness and contentment to your life (or frustration and anger!). Love is a living, dynamic creature that changes, grows, and needs attention…and you must nurture it.Has your loved changed to the point that you’re in a loveless relationship – or your partner isn’t honest with you? Read Why We Hurt the Ones We Love.

What phase of love are you in? Comments welcome below. 

How Love Changes Over Time

If your relationship has changed, you are normal. Here’s how the three stages of love change over time. Most couples start with sizzling hot chemistry, drift into comfortable attraction, and settle into a deep emotional attachment. If your romantic relationship has changed over the years or months, you and your partner are 100% normal.

One of the most important tips on how to love an emotionally unavailable man is to stop trying to change or fix him. Change takes a lot of hard work and dedication, and nobody can do it unless he really, really wants to. Let go of the illusion that your love will open your man up, that your emotional depth and commitment is enough to save your relationship. But, hold on to the fact that even though love changes, you can change with it! Below are the three phases of love, plus tips for reconnecting with your husband or boyfriend.

1: Romantic feelings and chemistry

Romantic love is driven by testosterone and estrogen. Mating is the evolutionary purpose of this stage of love; it creates strong physical attraction and sets the stage for emotional attachment. In this phase of love, endorphin's soak your brain and you’re immersed in intense pleasure. Your partner is perfect, ideal, made for you.


2: Physical attraction and power struggles 

In the second phase of a romantic love relationship, you may lose your appetite, need less sleep, and daydream about your lover on the bus, during meetings, in the shower. In this stage of love, the hormones dopa mine, nor epinephrine, and serotonin are racing through your body and brain. You’re also trying to shape your lover into your ideal partner – which is where the power struggles come in (and where the book How to Change Someone You Love might come in, too!)

 3: Emotional attachment or unconditional acceptance

A mature love relationship involves commitment, partnership, and even children. In this phase of love, you’re aware of both positive and negative traits in your partner, and you’ve decided you want to build a life together – and perhaps get married. Confrontation is most likely to occur in this stage of love (though if you’re authentic and honest, it’ll also happen in the second phase). You and your partner will either stay committed to a healthy love relationship or decide to call it quits.

Do Something Different

A lot of us are looking to make some positive changes in our life, but we have no idea where to begin. My suggestion is to do something different.

When you’re willing to do something different, you are telling yourself, your subconscious mind, and the entire Universe, “I’m asking for a change and I’m willing to DO something about it now.” The Universe responds to DOING since it actually means you’re starting to also BE something different.

You don’t even have to know what to do, at least not at the start. Doing ANYTHING different, that seems like it MIGHT head in the direction of what you are looking for, is a step in the right direction. You can make adjustments as you go. You can fine-tune the changes you are asking for later, once you get the hang of doing something different. The point is this:


 DO SOMETHING — ANYTHING — DIFFERENT

1. Write down the top three areas of your life that you feel need a bit of an overhaul.

2. On a scale of 1-10, how important is it TO YOU that this area change?
HINT: IF IT’S A 10, DO SOMETHING DIFFERENT TODAY

3.Now ask yourself this question: “What’s the easiest thing I could do different, starting now, that would allow this area to change?”

So, for example, let’s say you feel like you never have any time or space to yourself. Your batteries are getting run down and you don’t know what to do about it. If this sounds like you, one of the things that may come up when you ask that question is: “spend some time alone nurturing you.” And of course, your mind goes into all the reasons and justifications why it’s not possible.

“You’re too busy.”
“You have kids.”
“Your family, job, and social media obligations take up all of your time.”
“You’ll never get all your work done...”
And on and on and on and on....

That’s the way your mind works. It is always giving you the reasons why you can’t, not the way in which you can. So when you ask the question about what you can do different, give your mind a break. Let it know: “I’ve got this. Go take a break.” And let your childlike sense of wonder and possibility run the show for a few minutes.