Defining Love The Wrong Way

"The best love is the one that makes you a better person, without changing you into someone other than yourself" 

It is time to change the meaning of the word “love.”

The word is mostly used according to the first definition given in the dictionary: “an intense feeling of deep affection.” 


Some observation says that the result after speaking with couples before during and after marriage,  and of talking to parents and children struggling with their relationships, I am convinced partiality of this definition. Love should be seen not as a feeling but as an enacted emotion. To love is to feel and act lovingly.


The first love mentioned in the Bible is not romantic love, but parental love (Genesis 22). When a child is born, the parent’s reaction to this person, who so recently did not exist, is to feel that “I would do anything for her.” In the doing is the love — the feeling is enacted. 

Between human beings, love is a relational word. Yes, you can love things that do not love you back the sky or a mountain or a painting or the game of chess. But the love of other people is directional. 


Of course it is possible to perform all sorts of duties for someone and feel little or nothing for them. Love is not about being hired help. Love is not an obligation done with a cold soul. But neither is it a passion that expresses itself in cruelty, or one that does not express itself at all.


True love is not about looking outward. It is about looking at the heart.