Girl and boy do everything together, girl and boy are best friends, girl and boy act like they could be dating—but they’re not. Everything on the surface adds up to a perfect friendship: a balanced dynamic, always fresh with two unique sides and thought processes.
Girls and boys can be friends, but they cannot be best friends. Here’s why:
You never really know what they’re feeling
Is he secretly in love with you, despite denying the possibility? Are you secretly in love with him, even though you think you only see him as more of a sibling? Should you be secretly in love with him? Would it make everything fall into place—or would it destroy everything?
You find yourself getting jealous
If your friend starts dating someone or spends more time with a new potential significant other, you might feel as though things are falling apart.
Sometimes you end up being let down
You hold your friend to a higher standard because the relationship is—on some levels—more intimate, even though it is just a friendship.
Sometimes in close friendships, caring gets confused for feelings
When you are best friends with someone of the opposite gender (assuming you are heterosexual), any action you take to show your friend how much you care can be passed off as a secret sign of showing affection on a deeper level.
Your relationship is held to a different standard than other friendships
Because of that unusual dynamic between the two of you, you expect certain things to happen and/or not happen. When these expectations aren’t met, they hurt worse than any of your other friendships.
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